Why nice guys finish last

You have heard the saying nice guys finish last. I have figured out why. It is in the junior years that this is prevalent. Teenage to late twenties. Girls in the teenage range don’t want a nice guy. It seems they want someone who will make them feel like it is an adventure to say yes.

They want a nice guy appearance, but a nice guy takes too long to say lets fuck! Or to take you into the woods and just get busy. The guys they want treat them like shit and are assholes. But they are exciting to the young women, and make their juices flow. At the teen level some girls love guys to fight over them, will even instigate guys to fight over them and then go home with a different guy.

I was the nice guy. As a result, I lost a lot of opportunities to get laid. I lost my cherry before I was twenty. I was eighteen to be exact, still considered a late bloomer. It was the perfect time for me. An older woman took and taught me. Thing is, nice guys don’t have to finish last if they are taught that yes you treat women with respect and be nice until you get them into the bedroom. The rules change.

Therefore, you need to change to accommodate the situation. Does not mean become an asshole, but don’t be afraid to make a move. If you are too nice, the girl you like will see you more like their girlfriend and not someone to go to bed with. As a result, you can become bitter and angry. And that is worse than being too nice. That being said, try to find that happy medium.

The best thing is I have found is indifference. If you want to drive a woman nuts, act indifferent to her signals. Just not so much as she goes elsewhere. Respond and show interest, just don’t show desperation. Desperation will bring one of two reactions and neither one good for you. One is the use of you for all it's worth, and two is discussed and heartache follows both.

For the nice guy, there will be lots of heartache. No matter what you do, there will be the girls you desire who go for the biggest dipshits you know. But you know you’re the better choice, yet you have no chance. Nevertheless, you will find women that want what you offer. They just might not be what you want, or you may not see her because you’re blinded by the one who won’t give you the time of day. It is imperative you keep your eyes open for the ones who want you. And don’t make them wait too long because they have a back-up plan.

Now I am going to tell you the best way to get a girl’s attention is through her sense of humor. If you can make them laugh without being a goofy idiot, you have your foot in the door. Now it is up to you.

Just one last detail. Later in life, like in your thirties, those girls who wouldn’t give you the time of day are going to wonder where all the nice guys are? After they got out of that abusive relationship and have a passel of kids. The problem is by then they are broken and mistrusting. No matter what you do, they are going to have problems trusting you. Making it hard to maintain a good relationship.

They will try to make you hurt them at times and if you don’t, then you’re weak. Except you’re not weak, you are the strongest man they know. And they need you.

That is my insights to the Nice guy finishes last. Hope you find something here useful.

Sincerely James W. Sims IV